A "how well do you know me" quiz is the cheapest, most effective romantic thing you can do this February. Five questions about you, three options each, your partner answering from memory, and a score at the end that is either a compliment or a running joke for the next month. It costs nothing, it takes ten minutes to write, and it tells you something true.
This guide covers how to build one that is actually fun (the questions, the options, the scoring), 66 questions by theme you can copy, and a Valentine's card that asks your five best questions on their phone, with a polaroid memory after every answer and your letter at the end.
What a couple quiz is, and why it works
A couple quiz is a short set of questions about one of you, answered by the other. Each question has a right answer that only the two of you know, and the fun is in the near-misses: the comfort food that is almost right, the first-date venue that was actually the second date.
It works for one reason: attention is the thing we most want to be shown. "You remembered" is the whole message. A quiz is a way of asking for it without asking.
The shape that works:
| Length | Use it for |
|---|---|
| 5 questions | A card, a WhatsApp game, a Valentine's morning |
| 10 questions | A date night, an anniversary dinner |
| 20 questions | A game with friends, a party, the newlywed format |
Five is the sweet spot for Valentine's Day. Fewer feels like a test; more feels like homework.
How to write questions that are fun to get wrong
The question is easy. The options are the craft.
- One right answer, two near-misses. Every wrong option should be plausible. For "what's my comfort food", list three things you actually eat. The person should pause before choosing.
- Make the memory the reward. Decide what you want to show them (a photo, a story) and write the question that leads to it. The question is the door; the memory is the room.
- Start easy, end with a feeling. Question one should be a gimme so the streak begins. Question five can be the one that makes them stop: what am I most scared of?
- Keep options short. Forty characters each. They are read on a phone, quickly, with a slightly raised heart rate.
- Never block on a wrong answer. A miss should get a gentle line and the same reveal as a hit. Nobody should get stuck on question two.
Before you send
Write the wrong options after you have decided the right one, and make at least one of them something they would also say about you. "Lizards" is a better wrong option for "what am I most scared of" when it is also true.
66 how-well-do-you-know-me questions, by set
Copy any of these. Each one works as a quiz question with three options you write. The full list with copy buttons is on the love quiz questions page.
Our firsts (easy openers; nobody gets these wrong, which is the point)
Where did we first meet?
What was our first date?
Who said I love you first?
What was the first gift I gave you?
What was the first movie we watched together?
My favourites (the near-miss options live here)
What's my comfort food?
What's my coffee or chai order?
Which movie can I rewatch forever?
Where's my happy place?
What's my go-to midnight snack?
My habits and quirks (the ones you only know from living around someone)
What do I say when I'm annoyed?
What do I do when I can't sleep?
How many alarms do I set?
What's my most-used emoji?
What do I always forget to pack?
About us (the right answer is a memory)
What's our song?
What's our biggest inside joke?
Which fight did we laugh about later?
What's the pet name I use when I'm being sweet?
What do we always argue about on road trips?
The future (a quiz that doubles as a conversation)
Where do I want to travel with you next?
What would I name a dog?
What's the one thing on my bucket list?
Which city would I move to with you?
Just for fun (nobody gets these right)
What am I most scared of?
What's my karaoke song?
What would I be arrested for?
What's my guilty-pleasure show?
What's my phone wallpaper?
Long distance (every answer is a reason to book the next ticket)
What time do I usually call you?
What's the first thing we do when we meet after months apart?
What's our goodnight ritual?
What's the first restaurant we go to when I land?
The other 32 are on the questions page, sorted the same way.
What the score should mean
A score with no consequence is a number. Give it one of three:
| Score means | Example |
|---|---|
| A verdict | 5/5 certified soulmate · 4/5 dangerously close · 3/5 pretty good, honestly · 2 or less: we need more dates, starting this week |
| A forfeit | Under 3: loser cooks this week, plans the next date, or does the dishes until the 14th |
| A reward | 4 or more: winner picks the film, the restaurant, or the holiday |
Whichever you pick, keep the rule from above: a wrong answer gets a line and moves on. The quiz is a door to the letter, not a gate in front of it.
Three ways to run it
- Over text. Send one question at a time on WhatsApp with three options. Keep score yourself. After each answer, send the photo the question was about. Slow, and lovely.
- At the table. Write ten on cards. Read them out on a date night or an anniversary dinner, one per course. The near-misses become the conversation.
- As a card they play. Put five into a card that asks them on their phone, scores them, reveals a memory after each, and ends with your letter. One link, no app, and it keeps the surprise for the 14th.
A Valentine's card that plays the quiz
How Well Do You Know Me? on MomentoCard is a Valentine's Day card built as the quiz. You write five questions with three options each and tick the right one; they answer on their phone.
What happens, beat by beat:
- A sealed envelope with their name and your opening line. One tap breaks the seal.
- Five questions on paper cards. A right answer gets a cheer ("You actually know me."), a wrong one a gentle nudge ("Nope. Still love you."), and either way a polaroid memory slides in with your caption.
- The heart meter fills with the score and gives the verdict.
- The last question: Will you be my Valentine? Three options, every one a yes. Hearts burst; the card says "I knew it."
- The letter under a second wax seal, on cream card stock, signed by you.
- The finale: every polaroid pegged to a rope under Happy Valentine's Day.
What you fill in:
- Their name and yours.
- Five questions, three options each, the right one picked from a dropdown. Leave a question blank to skip it; three is the minimum that feels like a quiz.
- A square photo and a caption per question. No photo? A doodle-heart polaroid carries the caption instead.
- Your letter and a closing line.
It plays itself in the video export (picking the right answers), so the 9:16 version works as a status or a reel. Soft piano by default, or any track from the library. Try it with your names on the Valentine Love Quiz page.
When to send it
- The night before the 14th, so it is the first thing they open. Valentine's Day 2027 is a Sunday; the morning is free.
- Propose Day (8 February) if the last question is the point.
- Any evening you are apart. For long-distance couples it is a date in one link; open it together on a call and watch them answer.
Before you send
Play it through once yourself before you send it. If an option makes you wince, change it; if a caption makes you smile, you are done.
Also for the day: a proposal card for the bigger question, and the Valentine's Day date page with the week before it.
